Control the Controllable

Too often, people worry about things outside their control and ignore the things within their control. The more logical thing to do is worry about (and address) the issues you can control and realize things outside of your control shouldn’t occupy as much of your thoughts or time.

An example would be the person who is constantly complaining because other people are getting raises or promotions. Rather than worrying (and complaining) about other people progressing, this person should concentrate on what they need to do to get a raise or promotion. Instead of thinking “that person isn’t so special” the thought should be “what should I do to to make myself more special?” You can’t control how someone else works, you can’t control how they are perceived by superiors but you can control your performance which would effect the way others perceive you.

While it’s important to understand what others are doing in order to learn from their experiences, learn from what others do then concentrate on your own actions.

A social worker might get frustrated dealing with the same type of problems each day but they would need to realize while they can’t always influence the big picture (meaning if they help one person, there are thousands more where they came from), their actions can have a profound effect on individuals. If they worry about the big picture, which they can’t control, they will get frustrated, but if they concentrate on each individual they can influence, they can make a big difference.

If it’s raining outside, we can’t change that and complaining about it wont do anyone any good. The thing people can change is what they wear, where they go etc

Concentrate on controlling the things you are capable of controlling and let the other things go and you will be much more successful and happier

Have a great day!

Lawrence

3 Replies to “Control the Controllable”

  1. I completely agree that your focus should be on the controllables, but taking it one step further I would have to add that you should also not sweat the small stuff. I have found that if you allow all the small negative things that occur in your job, or in life, to impact you that they easily add up and can overwhelm you.
    A personal example would be my job (pharmaceutical sales rep.) which includes dealing with some rather difficult people on a daily basis. Whether it’s a rude doctor or an overworked receptionist it is commonplace for me to be yelled at or abused in some fashion every single day. Up until recently I allowed these actions to upset me so much that I was searching out new job opportunities. Then I started thinking- how bad do I really have it? I put it all into perspective and realized that there are so many people in this world who would love to have my problems! Who am I to complain about a few people being rude to me when there are people who have real problems (poverty, illness, abuse, etc.)? That led me to start actively thinking about all the parts of my job that I appreciated, and I realized that there are so many more positives than negatives.
    My entire attitude has changed in regards not only to my job but everything. Now whenever something bad happens I take a second and then decide if the issue is really worth getting upset over or if my time is better spent enjoying the other 99% of the day.

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