If you don’t mean it, don’t say it

When people are sick, or injured, or down in some way, those around them have a tendency to say things such as “if there is anything I can do to help, just let me know” or “you know I’ll do anything for you”.

If you say things like that, do you really mean it?

If the person needs money to pay their bills, will you sell your house? Will you take out a loan to help? Will you move to a new location to provide assistance?

If the answer to these questions is “no” (and let’s be honest, it’s the very rare person who could answer yes to any of these questions), then be honest and offer what you can.

If you can provide some food, or some transportation or some assistance be specific with what you are really offering.

Sometimes people think making these empty gesture offers will make the other person feel good. Truthfully, I think the only person it makes feel good is the person making the empty offer.

If you don’t mean it, don’t say it. If you do mean it, be ready to back it up

Have a great day

Lawrence

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