Have you ever noticed that when people say something and the word “but” is in the middle of the sentence, everything before it can be discarded because they didn’t really mean it?
When someone says “that is a really nice sweater but…” I don’t care what comes after the but, they don’t like your sweater.
When a person says “I really like your website but” it means they don’t really like your site.
The question that has to be asked is, do people think we are so foolish as to not realize this?
While you might think using this technique will “soften the blow” the reality is, people know what you are doing. If what you are saying before the “but” isn’t true, then don’t say it. Be honest, don’t waste people’s time and concentrate on everything after the ‘but”.
While this might seem like a very small thing, the reality is, it’s the type of thing that can make us all much better communicators.
Have a great day!