Ask Permission Not Forgiveness

There is a basic belief be many that it’s easier to ask forgiveness than to ask permission.

This means, if you have a choice of asking permission to use something or using it without permission knowing that if you get caught you can simply ask for forgiveness, it’s easier to go just do it and then apologize later.

There are three problems with this belief, in my mind.

First, if you choose to live by the “golden rule” you must be willing to accept others doing this to you. You can’t expect others to ask permission when you do whatever you want with the idea you will apologize later.

The second problem is it only works once. If you take something, or use something, without permission and get caught so beg forgiveness, you might be granted this forgiveness one time. However, the second time you do this, you lose all credibility. When you ask permission, and are granted it, people are more willing to work with you again in the future. So the forgiveness idea might work once but if you are trying to establish long term relationships, go with the permission.

The third problem, and to me the biggest one, is the character issue. Just because you can probably get away with something and even if you can’t get away with it, you can beg forgiveness, that doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do. Your character shows who you are, and what you do, when no one is watching. If you aren’t in times when you think you can get away with something and honest the rest of the time, you are not an honest person. A persons character is who they really are and if you claim to be a good person than be a good person all the time, not just when you think you can’t get away with things.

Ask permission, treat others as you want to be treated, develop long term relationships and do the right thing….it’s really not all that difficult

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2 Replies to “Ask Permission Not Forgiveness”

  1. It sounds like you are talking about having integrity in your life.

    I definitely agree with you on this point. Our real personality is who we are when we think no one is watching.

    Like the old saying goes “act the way you would if God was watching, because he is all the time”.

    Life is as good as I allow it to be.

  2. Yes I definitely consider this to be an issue of integrity. However, there is a difference between asking permission and always “staying within the lines”.

    I will be addressing this in tomorrows post

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